What To Say When You Don't Trust Anyone Around Your Child — Aunty Stella

A BODY SAFETY CONVERSATION KIT FOR MOTHERS & DAUGHTERS

What To Say When You Don't Trust Anyone Around Your Child

Age-by-age scripts that help you protect her without fear, shame, or one awkward, one-off conversation.

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"I don't let my daughter out of anyone's sight. People think I'm extreme. I just don't know how to explain why, or teach her what she needs, without frightening her."

— the question almost every mother is quietly carrying, and never quite says out loud


YOU KNOW THIS FEELING

You watch her play, and some part of you is always half on guard — even around people you're supposed to trust.

You've told her "don't let anyone touch you," and hoped that was enough, without ever being sure it actually was.

You plead with your help, your sister, anyone watching her, "don't let her out of your sight" — and you feel a little foolish saying it, even though the fear is completely real.

You know you need to have a real conversation with her. You just don't know where to start, what words to use, or how to say it without frightening her.

That gap — between knowing you should, and knowing exactly what to say — is where this kit lives.

HERE'S WHAT NOBODY TOLD US

Silence was never protection. It was just silence.

Most of us were raised on vague warnings — "be careful," "don't let anyone touch you there" — and nothing more specific than that. Not because our mothers didn't love us enough to say more. Because nobody ever handed them the actual words either.

A child who has never heard the real names for her body, who has never been told plainly what a "bad secret" feels like, or what grooming can look like from someone she already knows and loves, is a child who is far easier to confuse and far easier to silence.

This isn't about raising a fearful child. It's the opposite: a child with the right words, repeated calmly over the years, is a child who feels safe enough to be affectionate, playful, and free — because she knows exactly where the line is, and exactly who to run to if anyone crosses it.

You are not planting fear in her. You are planting language. And language is what makes a child harder to silence.

Aunty Stella

Teacher · Life Skills Facilitator · Mother of Four

  • English teacher since 2005
  • UNICEF-trained Life Skills Facilitator since 2018
  • Author of national training manuals on Life Skills, Leadership, Menstrual Health, and Adolescent Sexual & Mental Health
  • Trained 10,000+ girls across Northern Nigeria
  • Trained 2,000+ mothers and mentors under the G4G GEP 3 & 4 project
  • Fieldwork across Sokoto, Zamfara, Katsina, Kebbi, Kano, Lagos, Port Harcourt, Enugu & Abuja

WHY I WROTE THIS

A few years ago, during a training in the North West, a mother stayed behind after the hall had emptied. "Aunty Stella," she said, "my daughter told me something last week. If I hadn't sat in this training two years ago, I would have scolded her for talking nonsense. Instead, I knew exactly what to do."

She didn't tell me what her daughter said. She didn't need to. I understood, from the way her hands were shaking, that the words I'd given her quietly, years before, had done their work long before that moment ever arrived.

I have spent fifteen years watching what happens when a child has the words to protect herself, and what happens when she doesn't. The difference is almost never how much a mother loves her child. It is almost always the words she was given, or never was.

— Aunty Stella


WHAT'S INSIDE THE KIT

28 pages. Scripts you can use the same day you read them.

No vague advice. Word-for-word scripts, age-banded from toddler to teenager, built to be read aloud with your daughter beside you.

Chapter One

Ada and the Names for Everything

Ages 2–5 · giving her the real words for her body, early and plainly.

Pages 7–8
Chapter Two

Efe and the Secret That Felt Heavy

Ages 6–9 · teaching the difference between a good secret and a bad one.

Pages 9–10
Chapter Three

Zainab and the Friend Who Was Too Kind

Ages 10–12 · naming grooming behaviour and online safety, plainly.

Pages 11–12
Chapter Four

Halima Finds Her Voice

A skill for every age · assertiveness, and saying no with confidence.

Pages 13–15
Chapter Five

Ngozi and the Gift of Being a Girl

Ages 10–16 · her worth, against the backdrop of old beliefs.

Pages 16–17
Chapter Six

Amara and the Two Kinds of Attention

Ages 13–16 · healthy vs. unhealthy relationships, in a school setting.

Pages 18–19
Chapter Seven

Chidinma and the Storm That Used to Win

Ages 8–14 · simple tools for big emotions.

Pages 20–21
Plus

The Boundary Map & Red-Flag Guide

A printable chart, a pattern checklist, and exactly what to do if she ever tells you something.

Pages 22–26
FREE DURING LAUNCH

My Heart, My Rules

Your daughter's heart won't stay a child's heart forever. This 20-page bonus book meets her at the age of first crushes — with warmth, not fear.

Four more girls, four more real-feeling stories: learning that a crush is normal, where to draw the line, why standards matter, how to stay focused instead of distracted, and how to believe in herself, whether or not anyone's crushing on her this term.

What's inside the bonus book

  • Why a crush is normal — not something to hide in shame
  • Setting a physical and emotional boundary, and holding it
  • Writing her own standards, before feelings arrive
  • Staying focused on her goals during a busy season
  • A healthy vs. unhealthy relationship comparison chart
  • A worksheet she can grow into, year after year

Everything You're Getting Today

One kit. One bonus. One honest price.

What To Say When You Don't Trust Anyone Around Your Child (28 pages)₦6,500Included
Bonus: My Heart, My Rules (20 pages)₦6,500Free today
Total value₦13,000
₦9,800
or $9.97 — one-time payment, instant download, no subscription

Launch price ends after the first 200 copies — price returns to ₦15,000 after that.

30-DAY
PROMISE

Read It. Try One Script. If It Doesn't Help, Get Your Money Back.

I want you to use this kit, not just own it. Read it, try even one script with your daughter, and if it hasn't helped you find the words within 30 days, simply email me and I will refund you in full. No long forms, no guilt-tripping. This only works if it actually helps you — so that's the only outcome I'm interested in.

Option 1: Close this page

Nothing changes. The fear stays exactly where it is — quiet, unspoken, managed one anxious day at a time. The conversation you've been meaning to have with her stays "for another day."

Option 2: Get the kit now

Tonight, or this weekend, you sit with her and use the first script. It won't fix everything at once — but for the first time, you'll have exact words instead of a knot of worry in your chest.

Questions Before You Buy

Is this only for daughters?

No. It's written with daughters in mind because that's often where a mother's fear runs deepest, but every script works exactly the same for a son — just swap the pronoun.

Is any of this explicit or frightening for a child?

No. Every script is age-appropriate, calm, and protective — built to reassure, never to alarm. Nothing in this kit is graphic.

How do I receive the PDF?

Instantly, by email, the moment your payment is confirmed. No waiting, no shipping.

What if I'm not happy with it?

You're covered by the 30-day promise above — email me and you'll be refunded in full.

Can I use this with more than one child?

Yes — the age-banded chapters mean one copy grows with every child in your home, at every stage.

You Already Know Why You're Here

You didn't scroll this far by accident. Give her the words today.

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P.S. — You're protected by the 30-day money-back promise. Try it. If it doesn't help you find the words, you'll be refunded in full.

P.P.S. — The bonus book is only included free for the first 200 copies at launch price. After that, it's sold separately.

P.P.P.S. — The right words don't undo every fear a mother carries. But they are the difference between a silent worry and a daughter who knows exactly what to do. Give her that.